Fun is a simple pleasure, but shame can rob you of fun. How does shame rob us from happiness, and what can we do to reclaim the fun?
Recently, I was working with two clients, helping them free themselves from shame, who both mentioned they want to start having fun again. While it may seem obvious that they were not having a lot of fun because they were experience shame to the core, the mention of having fun again caught my attention. This peaked my curiosity and I started to wonder how shame can barre you from having fun?
- When you’re shamed to the core, you don’t think very highly of yourself. You feel, and believe, that you’re unworthy, unlovable, or you don’t belong. Feeling this way can make you anxious. You don’t want to feel the pain associated with shame, so it puts you on edge. That’s no fun.
- When you have toxic shame, you often don’t share your thoughts and feelings. So you don’t contribute to the conversation or relationship in an authentic way. You miss out on throwing in your one-liner, idea or comment. There’s great joy in self-expression. Instead you stay mute. That’s no fun.
- When your inner voice is constantly harsh and critic, it makes it hard to enjoy your own company. You can escape by isolating, but then the inner critic starts to rehash past events and beat you up. Where’s the inner peace and solitude? That’s no fun.
- When you your shame can be triggered by other people, you start to avoid them, which leaves you isolated. You can have fun on your own, in the isolation, but there is no one to share the fun with. That’s no fun.
Can you see a theme here?
Fun is a simple pleasure. It needs to be a part of your life in healthy doses. No one wants to look back on their life and no remember any fun times. Unfortunately, toxic shame is a major barrier to fun and happiness.
The first step to having fun is to free yourself from your toxic shame. Once you have begun to work on your feelings of shame, the fun will follow!
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Shame is NOT a life sentence, so free yourself.
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