People often interchange Guilt and Shame but the two words have different meanings.
What is Guilt?
According toPsychology Today, guilt is “A feeling of responsibility or remorse for some offense, crime, wrong, etc., whether real or imagined”.
What is Shame?
Shame is defined as “the painful feeling arising from the consciousness of something dishonorable, improper, ridiculous, etc., done by oneself or another.”
Shame is something you feel. It is painful. The pain can be excruciating, like a rhinoceros stepping on your chest. And it feels like you are not enough. You’re less-than. You’re the only one. When shame runs deep to your core, it can get ugly. It casts a hue of self-loathing. You feel you are bad.
What is the Difference?
Sometimes, telling the difference between identifying guilt and shame can be difficult.
Here’s how Shame Hack defines the difference between guilt and shame:
Guilt is when you feel bad about something you did or did not do;
Shame is when you feel bad about who you are.
For example: It’s Mother’s Day, and you forgot to call. When you feel bad for not calling, you feel guilt. Not calling is a behavior. Not calling is something you did. You feel shame when you feel bad for not calling and now you’re a bad daughter. You identify with being a bad daughter. It’s who you are.
When you feel bad that you did such and such, think guilt. When you feel so bad, that you ARE such and such, think shame.
Guilt sheds light on your values. Shame sheds light on your identity. Using guilt and shame to bring light into your world is best way to experience them.
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Shame is NOT a life sentence, so free yourself.