I’ll admit it. Perhaps I’m splitting hairs here, but I’ve just got a thing about being vulnerable. I don’t like the sound of it. I don’t like the way it feels. It makes my sphincters clench.
What does it mean to be Vulnerable?
Vulnerable: 1. Capable of being physically or emotionally wounded 2. Open to attack or damage (Merriam-Webster).
Who wants that?
I don’t. I don’t want to be wounded or open to attack. This is my hang up with being vulnerable. I don’t want these things, by definition.
Why be Vulnerable?
I do understand this new idea about being “vulnerable.” Being vulnerable is seen as a way to create intimacy. Vulnerable is a way to let someone know you. This function of vulnerable I like. I want intimacy. I want someone to know me and vice versa. But I don’t want to be wounded, or at the mercy of another person to achieve these things. This is my problem with being vulnerable.
For me, I much prefer the word “open”, or “willing to share”, versus “vulnerable”. But words matter.
If I’m open, it is my choice. I’m choosing to be open. I am allowing you in. I am sharing a piece of myself. I know who I am and I am sharing that with you. I want intimacy, and I want you to get to know me. This is why I open up and share. Open and sharing seem more in line with what I’m going for.
My intention is not to be wounded or exposed to attack. This just seems disempowering.
Being vulnerable and being open seek the same ends. I just prefer being open and sharing because it feels more empowering to me.
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